Love Letter
December 27th, 2010

My lovelies,

I’m so proud of you. You’re here because you’ve decided to come out of your shells and want to try new things, maybe meet some new people. You’ve decided to look for the first step, you may be a bit unsure but you’re forging ahead anyway.

Whether it’s shyness, introversion, being an HSP, being reserved, or something else, you’ve had a difficult time in social situations. Now you want to embiggen your social life. Adding new people, having parties, going to events, having a selection of starting points for beginning conversations.

You’re looking around to see what works and what doesn’t. Sharing and cheering, building on each other’s ideas and experiences. Trying and failing and succeeding and trying again.

Taking the little steps and the big ones too. Pushing at your limits and stretching your boundaries. Seeing where you can go next. Making discoveries that what you dreaded wasn’t as awful as you’d thought. That you enjoy things that you didn’t expect to like at all.

Thrilling in each new choice, attempt, trial, success, failure. Each time you push and stretch. Balancing going out and practicing self care. When you over balance and fall and try again. Spinning, twirling, and balancing…

And then…

Once you find your comfortable place that allows you to take your next steps, then you can look for the joy. Joy! And the disquietude that comes with it. Because, as wonderful as joy is, there’s no comfort in it. You can have an amazing life or a comfortable life, but not both, not at the same time.

The amazingness of finding and going after your joy and ecstasy, it’s not cozy, not safe, not comfortable. Which is why you first want to find a place where you feel cozy, safe and comfortable. So you’ve got that starting point.

To take the risk. To search for the joy. To go after what you want for your life.

Because you get to create your life, in whichever way you choose.

Yours in searching,

Kathryn

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  • Anonymous

    Searching – a wonderfully descriptive and nuanced word. It encompasses so much …

  • http://thesocialcaterpillar.com/ Kathryn Hunter

    I’m thinking that ‘searching’ may be a life theme, rather than a year theme. Hmmm…

  • http://www.anencouragingbird.com BirdyD

    So, so beautiful! :-)

    Will be printing this out to remind me when I need some reassurance. A Velvet Rope that is both practical & beautiful in the same space – wondrously well done! :>

  • http://thesocialcaterpillar.com/ Kathryn Hunter

    Thank you. :)

    It makes me so happy to see people finding this stuff useful.

  • http://CouchSurfingOri.com/ Couchsurfing Ori

    As a lout boisterous party animal, I do not understand what these things are that you speak of….

    But if you dig back beneath the layers, then you see the fat, shy me that didn’t even know the language of the country I was living in, and was afraid to speak to people….well, that side of me is still alive, and appreciates this letter.

  • http://thesocialcaterpillar.com/ Kathryn Hunter

    It’s so easy to see people from where they are now rather than where they came from. Even knowing how far you’ve come, my first response is to the you I see now, the loud boisterous party animal of which you speak. Thank you for the reminder that we are both who we are and who we were.